WELCOME NOTE

  Welcome to my blog

     Hello my wonderful readers!

I welcome you to my lifestyle blog, a sister to my lifestyle magazine, Celesta (which you will find in the pages section).  Allow me to take you along  with me in this amazing journey where we are going to discuss matters concerning our daily life experiences. If you feel like you can relate to one my topics you are free to comment or add something in the comment section. I want it feel like we are in a conversation, especially in issues that concern women in general. Our world is changing on a daily basis and we are moving along with a new revolution in technology. So we need to equip ourselves with the basic and necessary knowledge and life skills that go along with our daily life experiences. We are no longer in the past centuries where women were  only seen as  objects to men. We have to shine our light and put in the right places where others can reach it. Gone are those days when women could not take decisions without the consent of a male figure in their lives. now we are free to take charge of our lives.

Now if  we do things in together in unison even though, there are few who still dwell in the past, we will move forward to remove all the barriers that were put by the old laws to put us in the rear position where we could not do anything rather than running household chores and bearing children to raise them with the little amount of money we receive from our working partners, who happen to have their side chicks who would live to dress smart to impress the men while we were sweating in the scorching sun, to hoe the vegetable garden with little children on our backs while those coming from school would want to see their food ready when they come from school.

Now we wake up early in the morning to go and see to it that we contribute to building the economy of the country. That is where we need to improve ourselves and help others to grow with us so that we build a strong nation. There strength in us is so immense that whatever we agree upon can be possible.

All we need is to hold each other's hand and move along, putting a little bit of faith and compassion towards each other. Determination and faith accompanied by education can take us far as much as we want

Take a tour to my world of thinking, so that we can cruise together to deep side of our imaginations, where we can build a strong nation. Almost all the topics that will come across here are about us as  women and our capability to make a change or to contribute to the change that is already occurring in our environment.  I also included my author work, see the links below and click to read.

One of the topics are have emphasised in most of my articles and poems is perseverance. This is the most important phenomenon. most women who are top positions always have a story to tell and that story is a proof of their resilience towards the changes they came across as they climb their way to the top. The is no success story that has no history of challenges. All these become a strong story to tell that brings hope to those who are still on their path to success.

So it all depends on us. Let us do this. 

Thank you
Enjoy

L.jali

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Simple Ways To Keep Stress At Bay

How to de-stress

The stress related sicknesses like depression have become the most common problematic conditions nowadays. There is an escalating rate of suicidal cases especially among the youth. This all start by anxiety and loss of interest in all the things the sufferer used to do. The sufferer start to spend most of their time in bed without washing or brushing their teeth. And they lose all the hope and belief in themselves.

 How to avoid stress?

Stay away from stressors: the most important thing to do to avoid stress is to stay away from the things that cause you stress. Unfortunately, it is not only the things that can cause stress but people can too. So how does this happen you may ask: most people try very hard to impress or to fit in. This is what we call peer pressure in teenagers but the actual fact is that the adults can find themselves in that situation too. This sometimes happen at their workplace where impressing a hardcore boss becomes a priority. Chasing deadlines, trying to excel in presentations and rivalry between colleagues. If you find yourself in a situation where you no longer do anything for yourself but for the eyes of people start by reminding yourself that it is all about you. Start by asking yourself about why you started to do what you are doing in the first place. Stay in your own lane at your own pace. Remember that even those people you are focusing on have their own challenges as well. Even those you consider your role models have their shortcomings as well. So if you always divert from focussing on your lane and step on other people's, you will even forget about your own dreams. Stop living your life based on other people's expectations.

Living according to people's expectations can be cruel in the sense that they will never notice even if you are drowning or not coping at all. They will press until you no longer able anymore. In our black communities it is unlikely to notice a person who is this situation until they are in verge of losing their mind or committing suicide. It is only then that they will notice that such a person has a problem. Sometimes it becomes impossible to help them since the depression has reached its final stage.

Find a new hobby: Now you understand that this is about you not the other way round. Find yourself a new hobby or something you have more interest in. This could be a new game sport or going to a gym or even writing or drawing. Some people find it later that their hobby is actually their career path and they start to make earning out of it. Mine is writing and when I'm doing it I feel like I'm in my own world but at the same time I make sure it does not become an obsession. That is another problem. When you become obsessed with something it also becomes a problem. Remember that too much of everything is a sin.

Eat the right kind of food: now you fully understand that this is all about you. You can now focus on getting healthy by eating all the right kind of food that will boost your happy mood. In my book '' EAT YOUR BEAUTY OUT" I have considered the food that is good to boost your happy mood. Such food is  spinach which consists of zinc that is responsible for your happy mood. Kale is also good as spinach. Fruits like berries, banana, avocado, nuts( raw cashew, almonds) So if you eat your breakfast of oats with sliced bananas strawberries and nuts, you will have a perfect breakfast. For your meat, chicken and turkey are good. Salmon is also good and is a source of omega 3 fatty acids which our bodies can't produce on their own. For your snack eat dark chocolate. Dark chocolate is good and packed with iron, zinc and magnesium. Drink a lot of water and get enough sleep. You can drink detox water if you not keen in drinking water( I have some detox water recipes in the book I have mentioned earlier) so you can try them as well. Go easy on tea and coffee and try chamomile tea. Chamomile is good for boosting happy mood and even makes you sleep better.

Spoil yourself: some people spoil their mood by watching all the glamorous lifestyle and activities other people are posting in social networks. In this way they put pressure on themselves, forgetting the fact that not everything that is posted in social media is real. Start to focus on spoiling yourself. Buy yourself nice things, don't expect other people to give you gifts. Sometimes retail therapy can lift up your spirit.

Empower yourself: empowering yourself can be the best thing that you can do for yourself. Grasping all the knowledge as much as possible can divert you from all the negative things that can cause you stress. This will also stop you from being obsessed with other people s businesses and focus on your own. Remember where there is competition there's evil. By walking in your own lane at your own pace you will be able to tackle all the delaying tactics that throws themselves at you. Remember,' by looking at someone's plate you could be spilling your own gravy. So stick to your bush. Get with the kind of people who inspire you. Remember, if they don't push you up they will pull you down. Trust your instincts and obey your faith. Do not dwell on the past focus on the future. Move with time , learn new things. Do not allow any day to pass without you, leaning a new things no matter how trivial it may seem, it can be a stepping stone tomorrow.



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